If someone were handing out awards yesterday for meanest mom ever, I certainly would have won.

I outdid myself. Even for my cynical and sarcastic person, the hardcore, mean to the bone nasty just poured out of me, almost uncontrollably.

I crushed his spirit.


I ruined his day.


But I stood my ground and did not cave in. I absolutely refused to fold under his demands. Even when he looked at me like this.

Wait for it…


I hope this incident doesn’t make it into the handbook of how not to parent. Maybe one day he’ll have to sit in a fainting chair and tell his doctor all about this one pivotal day in his childhood where he was denied and rejected.

The truth is, I love you dearly, more than I could ever put words to. And sometimes love is tough. Sometimes we just have to tell you “no” for your own good. Even when it doesn’t make sense to you, please trust me in those times. I know you must view me as some over-bearing, mean, cruel person because instead of saying “yes” to your desires, I just giggled and kept on saying no. I know you don’t want to believe me when I say this, but I would love more than anything in the world to give you everything you ever ask for. But I love you too much to let that happen.

When Momma says “no,” there must be a good reason. No, it’s not because I was too tired or angry at you. It wasn’t because I just felt like being mean to you. It was honestly, with all truthfulness, and in all sincerity, for your own good.

We just can’t have everything we ask for.

Well, what was he asking for you say?


He wanted a drink. Of canola oil.

He harassed me with this cup. When I said no, he brought a different cup to me. He followed me with four different cups and the oil for a long time. I have to admit, I was quite entertained with his cuteness. I kept telling him no, put it back. Eventually, the poor boy did put it back where he found it…


He had indeed mistaken the canola oil for the apple juice. And in my utter meaniness to end all, I did NOT give him the apple juice yesterday, either.

Horrible, I know! But what you don’t see here, is that he also downed FOUR cups of lemonade already. Boy just did not need any more sweet drinks or canola oil to drink today!

Also, please note in the above pictures, he was not being denied any beverage, as you can plainly see he had a cup of WATER that he was too good for!

Let’s count the ways:

  1. Offered him water
  2. Refused to let him drink canola oil

Check, check. It’s official. I’m a mean momma. Not just a mean one… the “meanest mom in the world ever” award goes to none other than yours truly.

Y’all have a good weekend, I’m going to just continue on being mean.

4 thoughts on “Cruelty

  1. Wow. I am amazed at the fact that he has such nuanced expressions with which he communicates with you! When “they” say that kids with autism can’t communicate – just show them these pics!

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